watching what you say

i know that i need to be more careful of what i say, even if my intentions are good... but sometimes, people are just a bit too sensitive.

patience

this may sound a little cocky, but during the whole china trip i kept imagining how different people would react in my situations... and my tolerance level and complaint rate i think is pretty good than most.

interesting article about self-control

http://www.fastcompany.com/video/why-change-is-so-hard-self-control-is-exhaustible

"self-control is an exhaustible resource...This helps to explain why, after a long hard day at the office, we’re more likely to snap at our spouses or have one drink too many—we’ve depleted our self-control.

And here’s why this matters for change: In almost all change situations, you’re substituting new, unfamiliar behaviors for old, comfortable ones, and that burns self-control. Let’s say I present a new morning routine to you that specifies how you’ll shower and brush your teeth. You’ll understand it and you might even agree with my process. But to pull it off, you’ll have to supervise yourself very carefully. Every fiber of your being will want to go back to the old way of doing things. Inevitably, you’ll slip. And if I were uncharitable, I’d see you going back to the old way and I’d say, You’re so lazy. Why can’t you just change?

This brings us back to the point I promised I’d make: That what looks like laziness is often exhaustion. Change wears people out—even well-intentioned people will simply run out of fuel."

concentration and mental toughness

that's what it's all about. i need to learn how to focus myself better.